Oh, Mansi. YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG! Your parents had so many problems! They were trapped and opressed! There is NOTHING wrong with you! I KNOW how hard it is to let go of the past, and I haven't been able to do it totally. But, please look at it as it was your parents' problem! They were SO imperfect, that they're expectations of you, as well as their limited praise, reflected their LACK in parenting ability.
You are sweet, kind, generous, bright, compassionate, empathetic, authentic, and I just adore you! I'm SURE you are an EXCELLENT mother! I wish I could take away all doubts and insecurities from you in every way! Sure, you mess up. WE ALL DO. But, you'll NEVER be perfect, nobody will! Isn't THAT what your parents wanted?! For you to be PERFECT? Do you KNOW how senseless that is?!
I am so sad that you had to endure all of that. It says a tremendous amount about you, that you found a way to give your daughter what was never given to you. I hope that you will continue to grow toward joy and fulfillment, so that the hard aspects of your childhood recede further and further from relevance.
Oh Mansi, this is so much to process, you are such an amazing women. I’m certain that you have touched so many, as you have me, in this world, I have seen you share your love and talent of your artwork, your love of others, your kindness, your writings, the love of your husband and daughter and yes even your parents. There is nothing more in this world than what a Person wants and needs than acceptance and love. You have been given the power to change others lives, you share this in so many ways, your bucket fillers is just one way, it’s so easy to be kind and supportive to others. Thank you for your pod cast and telling your story, the world needs to hear more about you and from you. I’m blessed to have found you on social media. I feel your hurt but also see your joy in this life journey of yours..I saw this today. You will never have to prove your worth to those who know your heart. Blessings as you tell your story to all of us that love you and are proud of where you are in spite of where life your life started as a child and young adult. I like you just as you are. Keep creating you have a special gift.
Oh Mansi-so many times I was on the verge of tears. I can so relate to all that you speak of. I was raised by my mom-she did not know how to love. Probably because she was not in her childhood. There were four daughters-me being the oldest. My whole life I wanted her approval and never felt I had it. When I divorced an abusive man it was still my fault. I am 70 and I still wish I had a mom. In her later years she did ask me to forgive her and I did. I was looking forward to more time. After she passed-I could not say I missed her but missed what might have been. People ask if I am angry-no. I know how hard it is to be a single parent-she had four of us. She could have split us up but she didn't. I think bottom line she did the best she could with who she was and what she could do. Did she think "this is horrible but I will do it anyway" I don't think so. But it is so true...no matter the age...I am 70 and I would love to hear my mom say she loved me and was proud of me. The only blessing in it all is I am a great mom. I also have been able to help others. I need to remind myself-just because she could not love me does NOT mean I am unworthy or unloveable. It is simply because she is not able. God bless you.
Hugs to you, dear Debra. Thank you for sharing your story ... and thank you for the deep insights on a person's inability to love not being a reflection of who you are. Thank you ever so much.
Oh, Mansi. YOU DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WRONG! Your parents had so many problems! They were trapped and opressed! There is NOTHING wrong with you! I KNOW how hard it is to let go of the past, and I haven't been able to do it totally. But, please look at it as it was your parents' problem! They were SO imperfect, that they're expectations of you, as well as their limited praise, reflected their LACK in parenting ability.
You are sweet, kind, generous, bright, compassionate, empathetic, authentic, and I just adore you! I'm SURE you are an EXCELLENT mother! I wish I could take away all doubts and insecurities from you in every way! Sure, you mess up. WE ALL DO. But, you'll NEVER be perfect, nobody will! Isn't THAT what your parents wanted?! For you to be PERFECT? Do you KNOW how senseless that is?!
I am so sad that you had to endure all of that. It says a tremendous amount about you, that you found a way to give your daughter what was never given to you. I hope that you will continue to grow toward joy and fulfillment, so that the hard aspects of your childhood recede further and further from relevance.
Thank you, Kerry.
Oh Mansi, this is so much to process, you are such an amazing women. I’m certain that you have touched so many, as you have me, in this world, I have seen you share your love and talent of your artwork, your love of others, your kindness, your writings, the love of your husband and daughter and yes even your parents. There is nothing more in this world than what a Person wants and needs than acceptance and love. You have been given the power to change others lives, you share this in so many ways, your bucket fillers is just one way, it’s so easy to be kind and supportive to others. Thank you for your pod cast and telling your story, the world needs to hear more about you and from you. I’m blessed to have found you on social media. I feel your hurt but also see your joy in this life journey of yours..I saw this today. You will never have to prove your worth to those who know your heart. Blessings as you tell your story to all of us that love you and are proud of where you are in spite of where life your life started as a child and young adult. I like you just as you are. Keep creating you have a special gift.
Thank you, Pam. You have known me awhile and I appreciate your kindness and am so grateful for the grace you've always extended me.
Oh Mansi-so many times I was on the verge of tears. I can so relate to all that you speak of. I was raised by my mom-she did not know how to love. Probably because she was not in her childhood. There were four daughters-me being the oldest. My whole life I wanted her approval and never felt I had it. When I divorced an abusive man it was still my fault. I am 70 and I still wish I had a mom. In her later years she did ask me to forgive her and I did. I was looking forward to more time. After she passed-I could not say I missed her but missed what might have been. People ask if I am angry-no. I know how hard it is to be a single parent-she had four of us. She could have split us up but she didn't. I think bottom line she did the best she could with who she was and what she could do. Did she think "this is horrible but I will do it anyway" I don't think so. But it is so true...no matter the age...I am 70 and I would love to hear my mom say she loved me and was proud of me. The only blessing in it all is I am a great mom. I also have been able to help others. I need to remind myself-just because she could not love me does NOT mean I am unworthy or unloveable. It is simply because she is not able. God bless you.
Hugs to you, dear Debra. Thank you for sharing your story ... and thank you for the deep insights on a person's inability to love not being a reflection of who you are. Thank you ever so much.